YOU ARE ENOUGH! ACT ACCORDINGLY!
Hear me: you are held, you are nurtured, you are guided, you are taken care of, you are Loved, you are ENOUGH.
The true essence of our Uni-verse is Love. It’s the foundation, the baseline of where we come from. We forget that because the world is filled with many people who have forgotten or never learned their true nature, but it doesn’t deny what’s true.
I remember in my couch surfing days and right before, I began to see TDL as an experiment in Faith. I had all these fears that “I would end up alone, no one would like me, I’m not enough, no one would see value in me, I would end up homeless and alone and that nothing would work out.” There were plenty of other fears, too. But these were some of the main ones.
And as I became more aware and more conscious of these fears, there was a part of me that thought, “I wonder if those things will actually happen? Why don’t we find out?” And I kind of dared myself to see what would happen. Deep down I know that all the things I wrote at the beginning of this blog were true, but my ego and my fear needed to be proved wrong. So I leaped.
There were plenty of times when things didn’t go the way that “I” wanted them to. There were plenty of times where I was terrified beyond anything I had experienced before. There were times when I just wanted to give up and to quit. There were many times when I had regretted taking a risk and wish I could go back to the “safe” road of previous corporate life in the music business. There were times when I didn’t know where money for rent was going to come from. There were times when I was so confused and didn’t know what to do.
But the thing I kept doing every day was writing, emailing, tweeting, learning and trying my best to add value to other people’s lives.
People ask me how I started to write. One day in 2008 I couldn’t find a quote, so I just wrote a sentence. And then the next day another sentence, and then another. And now I write blogs that are way too long (lol).
But it started small. And each step is guided. I haven’t had a plan for how it’s going to work. All I’ve done is just show up, do the work and try to help people in a non-dogmatic and loving way.
Which brings me to the inspiration of this blog today. The further I go down the Rabbit Hole of Faith, the more and more I see that the spiritual and Uni-versal teachings and principles are TRUE.
One of the most important ones that I have come to nestle up with has been the idea of perfect Divine Timing. We pray for things to happen when we want them to, but that’s not how it works. What’s in the best interest of our heart and our mission WILL happen, but not in our time frame.
The Uni-verse has a way of taking away everything in our lives that we believe will sustain us that actually doesn’t. I never came closer to my true Self, to my Soul, as I did when I was couch surfing. That was my wake up call.
The Uni-verse has shaken us to awaken us.
When we get nestled into the idea that we are taken care of, we are enough, we are Loved and that The Uni-verse knows our hearts better than we do, we can let go of the outcome and allow ourselves to be pulled by Grace.
There is a natural ebb and flow to the process of life that is kind, benevolent and sometimes frustrating, but it happens nonetheless.
This is what it means to live by faith and not by sight. When we are so nestled into the arms of the Divine, we allow ourselves to be carried one moment at a time. When we know we are enough, when we know we are in the perfect place right now, when we seek to add value instead of extract value, when we detach from the outcome, but still try our best, when we allow what wants to emerge to emerge - we step into a kind of flow that cannot be thought out by mankind.
Our plans mean little in the eyes of the Divine. What matters is flexibility, openness, a desire to serve and a deep and true understanding that even though we have no idea how it’s going to go, that we are Loved through the process and no matter how it ends up, it will be for our best interest.
Not the best interest of our ego, no, but the best interest of our heart (which is always WAY cooler, way more FUN and totally THRILLING). The path of the heart is a journey into the unknown and when we meet that journey with bold faith, a service-based mindset and a desire to trust The Uni-verse moment to moment, we REALLY start to live a purpose and heart-based life.
My great wish is that we can remember our Source and then act accordingly. When we can stop clinging, stop competing, stop hating and start adding value and seeing that below the surface of appearance, there is one Heart, one Love and one Purpose that is trying to emerge through us all in varied forms: to Love and be Loved.
Our work is to become aware of and take down the blocks within us so that we transform our belief in separation and begin to feel a bond and connection with each person and circumstance we meet.
So if you knew you were Loved, cared for, guided and the rest, what would you do? And when would NOW be a good time to do it?
Let me know: Comment or email: WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com
Stop Judging Yourself- Start Loving Yourself!
So last week was Jenna’s birthday. On Wednesday we went to Disneyland and then on Sunday I took her down to Carlsbad to The Chopra Center to treat her to one of their amazing massages.
While I was making the plans I thought to myself, Louise Hay lives near San Diego, I’ll email her and see if she is around for dinner on Sunday. And so I did and she emailed me back and it was on. One of the coolest things about doing what I do is that I’ve come to know people who have inspired me to walk this path and I try to spend as MUCH time with people who inspire me as possible. Louise is one of those folks.
The cool thing is, I believe that wisdom and consciousness is caught more than it’s taught. So when you get around someone like Louise, just her presence alone teaches in addition to what she’s saying. It was a special treat for Jenna and I to spend some time with her, but what was MOST special were some of the nuggets of wisdom that Louise shared during dinner.
The one that really hit me the hardest was the idea that “guilt seeks punishment and punishment creates pain”.
It’s amazing to think about this emotional formula - and how much guilt I have and many people who write in and my clients have. There’s an undercurrent in most of our lives that says, “I’m not enough, I won’t be Loved and I am guilty for feeling like I deserve happiness”. In my own life, it’s been difficult to feel like I can deserve to be happy when there is so much sadness, death, poverty, etc. in the world.
I was really good at making myself wrong as I was growing up because I didn’t want to rock the boat at school. One of my dominant thoughts growing up was, “Well, happiness and all that good stuff just isn’t for people like me”. One of the reasons I started TDL is because I wanted to overcome these feelings within myself.
For a long time I felt guilty for wanting to be happy. And I’ve worked on it, but when Louise said, “Guilt seeks punishment and punishment creates pain”, it was one of those crazy clarity AHA moments when I saw a lot of my own actions growing up and recently through a new lens.
I asked myself, “Who would you be without the story of guilt?” And the answer was clear, “Anything you wanted to be!”
It was almost as if the guilt was there to keep me in my comfort zone more than anything else. It was there to hold me back, to keep me safe. Because when you’re guilty, you don’t really deserve a great life. But when you’re innocent and free, then anything is possible ‘cuz nothing is wrong with you.
And the truth is, my friends, that you and I are both free! And innocent. Not because of what we did or did not do, but because we were born. It’s an unalienable right - the right to be born innocent and free. We stack the guilt based on a false belief that we are not enough and that we won’t be Loved.
But it’s time to challenge that belief and thought pattern and call it out. It’s time to see that we are enough, that we are not guilty but innocent, and with the help, Love and Grace of The Uni-verse all things are made new and possible in our lives.
So, have you been seeking punishment for any guilt you have been feeling? Do you see the pattern and want to stop it and call it out? If so, what is the pattern? What can you do to stop feeling guilty and start claiming your innocence and worth?
Comment or email: WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com
Honor Your Heart- Be Courageous!
Courage. It’s a desirable quality to have and an empowering way to be. Our heroes and inspirational leaders are labeled courageous. We are told throughout our life to “be courageous,” but that isn’t always easy. In fact, courage is often one of the most difficult qualities to truly integrate.
Why is being courageous not as easy to embody as the heroes make it look in the movies? There are two main reasons. First, being courageous means being willing to face fear and embrace uncertainty. YIKES! We don’t like being scared or not knowing what is ahead. Second, most of us do not truly understand what courage really means.
Think of something that you are scared to do. Perhaps it’s a conversation you are nervous to have, a job change you are afraid to make, or a relationship you are terrified to leave. You are feeling fear, hoping that one day you will feel courageous enough to finally do it (whatever your “it” is). You don’t like not knowing what is on the other side of a choice. In fact, it is petrifying. Staying in the known, however undesirable it may be, feels a lot cozier.
But what are you waiting for? Some miraculous moment when all of a sudden you don’t feel scared? A sign from the Uni-verse that gives you more certainty? Sorry to break it to you, but that is not the way courage is developed.
Courage is feeling fear and moving forward anyway. So if you are waiting for fear to disappear before you take an action or make a choice, you are going to be waiting indefinitely. You are allowing fear to paralyze you. You are mentally strategizing the perfect scenario in your head that feels “safe” enough before you take action.
Stop waiting for the perfect conditions to arise. Stop waiting to not feel scared. Feel the fear and do it anyway – THEN, and only then, you will experience true courage.
Courage is NOT the absence of fear; it is acting in spite of fear.
You become more courageous when you choose to confront fear, pain, perceived danger, uncertainty or intimidation. You embody courage when you move forward even in the face of opposition or discouragement.
I remember in my Spiritual Psychology program at The University of Santa Monica, my teacher, Ron Hulnick, once shared a story about Napoleon, the powerful military and political leader during the French Revolution. Somewhere in history an interview is documented with him where he was asked how he fearlessly led his troops into battle. His response (and I’m paraphrasing) was that he was absolutely terrified but did not allow that to stop him. That is courage.
Want to be a hero? How about a leader? Then you must be willing to face the fear and uncertainty in your life. And I’m just not talking about running into burning buildings to save people. Heroes and leaders speak their Truth and take actions that are aligned with Love. People who are courageous are willing to honor the calling of their hearts even when, and especially when, it feels scary.
The root of the work courage is “cor” which is the Latin word for heart. Did you know that courage originally meant to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart? That’s been my experience of courage. When people hear my story, particularly the part about leaving my successful career and then later a “safe” marriage that I knew in my heart wasn’t right for either of us, they often acknowledge my strength. I don’t see myself as strong; but rather as having strength of heart. I was TERRIFIED when I left my job and marriage. I did not know what I was going to do with my life and I had no one’s arms to run into. But I did it anyway. And now I actually understand what this desirable and empowering quality of courage is all about.
Are you ready to truly embody courage?
You don’t have to be fearless to be a leader and a hero in your own life. Face your fear and move forward anyway. Do not stall anymore hoping for the right conditions or clarity. Move forward. Speak up. Take an action. Care less about what other people think. What do YOU think?
What are you waiting for?
You are only denying yourself the experiences your heart is longing for. You are much braver than you give yourself credit for. Whatever the internal or external battle is going on in your life, it’s time to fight for the change you crave. The sign that you are waiting for from the Uni-verse is that longing in your heart. Stop looking for it in the form of a Uni-versal green light. Trust that as you move forward, the Uni-verse has your back.
You will be victorious!!!!
Don’t just listen to your heart … honor it by being courageous.
Christine Hassler is an author, speaker, life coach and spiritual counselor dedicated to helping people answer the questions who am I, what do I want and how do I get it? You can check out her website here: http://www.christinehassler.com/."