Self-esteem is one of those things that’s talked about a lot. It’s like a catch phrase that everyone seems to throw around, but how do we actually get it?
That’s the question.
I thought I knew, but I didn’t until I met my life coach, Laurie Gerber.
And Laurie laid it out to me in such a SIMPLE way. I LOVE simplicity. Everything that is sophisticated should be simple. And the way that Laurie laid it out was the most sophisticated description of self-esteem I have EVER heard.
She said that self-esteem comes from keeping PROMISES to yourself. That is - make your ACTIONS in alignment with your nature. That is to say - DO what you SAY you are going to do. It’s simple, but not easy.
ESPECIALLY for someone who has addictive tendencies like me. My nature is health. My desire is a six pack and SOMETIMES I don’t always eat in a way that is in alignment with my true nature or desire. And so… what happens? I don’t respect myself; I take myself further away from my true desire.
And with this action - I LOSE esteem for myself. And my self-esteem lowers. I’m learning that when I do this, it’s important to not go into guilt and shame mode, that is for sure. But even so, when I don’t act in alignment with my true nature and my desires, my self-respect goes down and so does my self-esteem.
On the flip side, when I act in alignment with my nature and my goals - my self-esteem goes UP!
It’s a simple equation, really, which is why I love it.
I’m still learning how to do this, but I’m doing my best to keep my promises to myself every day. And as I do, my self-esteem goes up and as that goes up my productivity and creativity increase, and life just gets better!
So, where in YOUR life are you not keeping promises to yourself? Where in your life are your actions not in alignment with your true nature and desires? Can you see that when you aren’t acting in alignment with your true nature and desires your self-esteem goes down? What actions are you willing to take NOW to reverse this and can you stop feeling guilty and shameful?
(Source: thedailylove.com)
Start the morning off slow.
Enjoy.
Why are you in such of a rush?
Life is but a short journey.
You might as well enjoy it while it lasts.
And there is so much to enjoy!
So do what you love.
Do not waste a second feeling guilt, shame, or worry.
Do not live to please others.
Do not shut off and go through the motions.
Be kind.
Be compassionate.
Respect yourself.
Honor yourself.
Do what you love and do it well.
You’ll make the heart of the whole world swell!
Feeling good from MyEmoHeart
If I had but one piece of advice, it would be to let go of all guilt, shame, and worry.
A wise man once said there is no room for such feelings, so don’t allow guilt, shame, or worry to take up space within yourself or this earth!
Allow others to take responsibility for their thoughts, actions, and emotions.
Take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions.
Have compassion for yourself.
Have compassion for others.
Live free.
Live with passion.
Live with love.
Forever yours from MyEmoHeart
I vibrate at the frequency of love.
I can’t keep secrets anymore
My whole life is such a bore
I sink further into misery
No one but myself can help me
How do I break free?
How do I move a little closer to being me?
How do I live my dreams?
Stop believing in everything I see?
Take a risk
Make it last
Just let go
Of the past
Stop listening
To what they say
They never
Gave it all away
Have no fear
Just let go
Live with passion
They won’t know
Just don’t
Run away
Don’t you
Feel ashamed
Expectation has marred my life.
Feelings of guilt and shame when you don’t live up to yours or others’ expectations.
Feelings of disappointment when you or other people don’t live up to your expectations.
Unknowingly, even though I am a very forward thinking, modern woman, if you will, I have seemingly still bought into the notion that I need a someone to take care of me financially.
It is a very romantic idea.
I can very well take care of myself. But somehow, the older I get, the more this idea seems to pervade my mind. Along with the ideas that I should be married by twenty-five at the latest and have at least one kid by twenty-eight.
I have also felt significant pressure to be skinny, to have a career, to be something, but I keep on falling short and then feel like I am letting everyone down.
But I can’t seem to figure anything out.
The more I try to find myself, the less I seem to know.
I so love helping others, but fail to help myself. I place others above myself.
Finding our way through life, some of us are brave enough to break the mold, forging our own paths, some of us just do what we think we are supposed to do.
We repeat the dysfunctional patterns of those close to us and that of society.
It seems as though I keep on falling into expectation, into expected roles I think I should be playing.
Fear of being my unique self is keeping me from breaking the mold.
I used to be so sure of who I was and where I was going.
But maybe this is a good thing.
Maybe now is the chance to be my true self and stop being what I think I should be.
Now is the time to shed light on my true inner self.
Now is the time to be free and accept myself.
To not care anymore.
To let go of expectation and judgement.
To love.
Unfinished thoughts from MyEmoHeart
I watch the tragedy of conviction
Living life for someone else
Is this real or is this fiction?
Could you imagine how this felt?
Without shame
I feel your pain
There is nothing
To benefit
Nothing to gain
I feel so selfish by being myself
Yet,
Being a walking contradiction
Is not good for my health
***(Please note that this post is not suggesting anything unsafe or harmful in relation to sex, sensuality and love)
I have a secret.
I am a very sexual person.
I love to love.
Now, I am in a very, deeply, committed relationship.
But I feel so passionately about everything.
And, sometimes, I just feel like having sex with everyone.
I am not afraid to admit that I am equally attracted to guys and girls.
I am not ashamed.
But, I was taught to be ashamed of my body. To be ashamed of finding someone of the same sex attractive. To be ashamed of being passionate.
But I have news for you!!
When we allow love to flow, when we feel, when we are love, an unveiling of beauty for all things in life occurs.
We have all had glimpses of this.
There are parts of bodies we are drawn to.
There are looks we are attracted to.
How many times as a girl, you have found another woman to be very attractive? (Sorry, I can’t speak for guys… but I can imagine that the same is true for guys?)
Are there times when you wish you had darker (or lighter) features that you saw on some girl (or guy) in an ad or found the look of a celebrity to be highly desirous?
First of all, do not be ashamed at how you feel!!!!!!
Be proud :)
It is TOTALLY natural to feel this way.
It is TOTALLY unnatural to condemn or push away feelings, of any kind!
There are times when there are things in nature that I find so beautiful, there is a kind of attraction, a highly desirous feeling I have.
And it is NATURAL!!
Sexuality and sensuality are beautiful.
To honor and find beauty in our bodies and the bodies of others, I feel, is something that we need more of.
No matter your size, ethnicity, creed, etc., you ARE beautiful!
And it is time to LOVE more.
To love ourselves more.
To love others more.
To be love.
To feel love.
To not be ashamed to love.
To see the beauty in ourselves and others.
To feel.
Love yourself. Love others. Love the world. <3333
Passionately yours from MyEmoHeart
