MyEmoHeart

Here’s How You Take Your Power Back!

The most powerful tool we have at our disposal is the power of choice. Almost everything that happens in our lives is the result of a choice that we have made. And for the things that happen in our lives that we didn’t choose to have happen - how we CHOOSE to respond to these events is still our choice.

Choice is everything. And what I’ve come to see after doing TDL for so many years and working with thousands of people is that a lot of folks don’t think they have a choice in their life. It is not until we investigate where their actions come from that we discover they actually DO have the power to choose.

We don’t always get to choose what happens in life, but we do get to choose how we respond to what happens. There is a BIG difference between reaction and response. Reaction is when something happens and we just react - without thinking. It’s like the animal in us takes over and wants to either fight or run. We react with defensiveness, judgment or shock. We react with anger or even hate. We react with disgust. We react with all kinds of emotions that don’t represent our highest nature.

I’ve come to believe that our journey is to first become aware of how we react and not make it wrong. To understand that we and everyone we know are doing the best that they can from their point of view. And we can investigate where these reactions come from. And slowly over time we begin to see that when things trigger us “out there” - there is a precious space in between something happening and our reaction. And in this space we now have a choice - a choice of how we want to respond.

To me, the ability to respond is far more powerful than unconscious reaction. This is respons-ibility is - the ability to respond. And in this space, where we can choose, lay our power.

What are we going to make this mean? And why? What’s the root of the trigger I’m having? What do I have to believe about life to have this reaction? And then what do I want to believe about life, what empowering perspective can I take that will allow me to see the lesson in this moment and then let it go?

This is like spiritual fitness training. Emotional muscle building. To be able to choose a response instead of be at the whims of our unconscious reactions.

Forget not the central truth that God is seated in your own heart. Don’t be disheartened by failures at initial stages. Cultivate the spirit if surrender to the workings of his will, inside you and outside you, until you have completely surrendered up you ego-sense and have known that he is in all, and he is all, and you and he are one. Be patient. The path to self-discipline that leads to God-realization is not an easy path; obstacles and sufferings are on the path; the latter you must bear, and the former overcome-all by his help. His help comes only through concentration. Repetition of God’s name helps concentration.

WHAT IF YOUR PAIN WAS A GIFT?

What if, from another point of view, your darkest moment was actually your greatest gift?

When we talk about SPIRITUAL growth, we are dwelling within a realm that does not sync up with human reason. Human reason and intelligence have been evolving over the ages, but they are still not developed enough to properly decode and decipher the true nature of reality.

We tend to think logically, in mostly “if, then” statements.

If I’m a good person, then good things will happen to me. If I follow all the rules, then I will be rewarded. If something bad happened to me, then there must be something wrong with me. If I experience pain, then what’s happening is bad. If I experience pleasure, then what’s happening is good.

But the problem is: human logic, understanding and our point of view are extremely limited. If we truly understood this, we wouldn’t be so quick to apply meaning to the events of our lives. Just because we feel good or bad in the moment doesn’t mean what’s happening is good or bad.

When I was doing drugs and drinking alcohol, in the moment I felt good, unaware of the long-term effects of my actions.

While I’m working out, it hurts like hell, but there is massive long-term reward.

The nature of The Uni-verse is often counterintuitive. What’s bad is actually good and what’s good is actually bad. This isn’t a blanket Uni-versal truth, but it is something I would love for you to consider.

Also, it’s important to mention that even the dance between good and bad is perfect. We need opposites to learn, to grow and to evolve through.

I would love for you to consider that the worst things in your life, seen from a new perspective, are actually your greatest gifts!

I know it sounds impossible, but what if you were sent major pain, not only to learn from it, but to help others, too?

Through the lens of human reason, horrible things happen. Through the lens of Uni-versal understanding, horrible things happen as a path for us to collectively wake up, one person, one light bulb moment, at a time.

What gift would you like to claim for your darkest hour? What treasure is in the cave of your fear waiting to be seen? How can you show up with even more Love in your heart and give it to yourself and all those you meet? What new and empowering meaning can you express and start to live in your life? The choice is yours. Who you are is more powerful than any story you tell about your life, yet the story you tell about your life is what you get to experience. Choose wisely.

“No one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.”

- Wayne Dyer (American self-help advocate, author and lecturer.)

“You are not your mind, your emotions or the circumstances of your life. You are the peaceful observer of your mind and emotions that allows life circumstances to pass through and around you for your evolution to finally come to a place of total acceptance of all that is. Only the peaceful observer remains after all else fades away. Only the peaceful observer in total acceptance of what is can take action towards effectively changing anything. You are only this peaceful observer - everything else is as fleeting as the blink of an eye, choose happiness and don’t buy into it.”

- Jackson Kiddard, author & polymath.
 
 

Dearest,

When you do something you’re not so proud of, you can react in one of three ways.

You can beat yourself up and wallow in the depths of despair, riddled with shame and paralyzed by guilt.

You can shield or numb yourself from what you’ve done and just keep right on doing the same ol’ thing.

Or you can take everything as an opportunity for growth and awakening, recognizing how you want to be different and taking positive action to avoid behaving that way in the future, all while holding yourself close with loving compassion and infinite forgiveness.

Bet you can guess which one I’d choose…

Always here with you, loving you, even when you screw up,

Your Inner Pilot Light