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Expectation need be lost.

Expectation of certain outcomes.

Stress over future (or past) events.

Let go of expectation.

Let go and be.

Work hard in your passion, but let go of expecting a certain outcome.

Things always turn out exponentially more than you could have ever imagined.

“I am very present to the idea that if you let go, it all gets done. 

Now I’m not talking about being lazy. Anyone who knows me knows I am an extremely hard worker. What I’m talking about is letting go of the outcome. For many years I felt like Scrat - you know who I’m talking about - the poor character “Scrat” in the “Ice Age” movie series. He can never get the acorn, and if he does, he totally messes it up.

This video is one of many that capture the zany experience of Scrat. But many times in my own life I’ve felt like Scrat, always chasing and never having much to show for it.

That is because I had forgotten one of the fundamental tools in the Spiritual tool kit - detachment. My friend Ryland and I have a saying that we hear from Krishnamurti - it says, “I just don’t mind how it goes.” And when you are in that mindset, disaster isn’t disaster; what you have is abundance and where you are is perfect. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t work, try and do. But, if you are attached to a certain outcome, you may be missing the bigger picture in your life.

The Uni-verse has plans for you that you are not yet now aware of. And when you try and try, the world is beyond your winning, not because The Uni-verse is unfair, but because it has a better option for you that is beyond the struggle. Struggle is different than work. We all know that faith without works is dead. But faith in the hard times and faith when you’re not getting what you want isn’t faith, unless you trust.

Some of the things I REALLY wanted to happen in my life and I prayed and prayed to happen, just didn’t happen. Sometimes the greatest acts of Grace are unanswered prayers. If you are so attached to a certain outcome that it gives you pain, anxiety and worry - that is a sign that your thoughts are not aligned with the Will for The Uni-verse in your life. When you experience stress, anxiety and worry - those are thoughts based in fear and fear is not what we’ve come to be.

When we detach, when we let go, and when we allow something even greater to be that we didn’t see coming - THAT - is how we step into a miraculous life. I could have never imagined my life ten years ago being what it is today - not even three years ago. I had my plans, my intentions and my desires and most of them didn’t come true. And now I’m glad. I’m glad that certain prayers weren’t answered. I’m glad that certain people said no to me. I’m glad that things are going the way that they are because it’s beyond my wildest dreams.

I know you work hard; we all do. But today - is there a person, a situation or a prayer that you can just surrender? And allow The Uni-verse to show you a way that you had not yet considered? Can you see this moment as perfect? Can you see this moment as full of everything you need? Do you have the courage and humility to let go? If so, a world of magic is waiting for you. It’s one thing to be a part of the rat race, but I prefer to be pushed by angels. What about you?

Leave a comment or send us an email toWhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com 

Love,

Mastin”

(Source: thedailylove.com)

Let’s face it.  Life is full of surprises that aren’t always the kind we would wish for.  What makes these unexpected, unwanted surprises even harder to accept is our attachment to the way we expected things to go. This particular brand of discomfort – the kind fueled by a life drunk with expectations and the resulting crash from failing to meet them – is profoundly sobering and uncomfortable.  I call it an Expectation Hangover® which I define as: “The myriad of undesirable feelings or thoughts present when one or a combination of the following things occurs:

-       A desired result does not occur

-       Things don’t turn out like you though they would or wanted them to

-       You are unable to meet your personal and/or professional expectations

-       An undesired, unexpected event occurs that is in conflict with what we want or planned.”

The symptoms are similar, but far more miserable and lasting, to those caused by a hangover from alcohol: lethargy, depression, lack of motivation, confusion, denial, anger, poor work performance, diminished creativity, strained relationships, social withdrawal, low self-esteem, regret and a disconnection from the Uni-verse.

When our expectations are met, we feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. Often risking little, we feel safe, in control and on-track.  Achieving our goals is intoxicating and we are compelled forward towards them, sometimes disregarding our underlying motivations (which often come from our ego). We don’t like the unknown and we cling to our plans like a road map instead of allowing our inner knowing and the Uni-verse to lead us.

While striving for goals has value, holding expectations and attachment to the way life “should” go sets the stage for disappointment.

Disappointment. Uh oh. Most of don’t like it when the Uni-verse seems to miss the memo on how we think things should be. But the truth is the Uni-verse doesn’t miss anything. We are the ones who are missing out when we do not seek out the lessons from Expectation Hangovers.

When we keep fighting for what we think we want, never slowing down enough to actually learn the lesson that our Expectation Hangover is attempting to teach, it is impossible to clarify what we truly want andneed. We’re too drunk with expectations to notice when we are headed in the wrong direction.

The result?  We continue to wake up with Expectation Hangovers: A career path that was planned and executed with precision becomes tainted with doubt and lackluster.  A relationship with “the one” suddenly becomes the one thing we can’t get right. A salary or promotion that was counted on is not a reality. A home that was dreamt about still remains a fantasy. A pregnancy that is wished for isn’t happening. A parent who we could always lean on suddenly isn’t there anymore.  A lover or spouse leaves.  An illness interrupts our life.  A job and the financial security that came with it is gone.

And then there are the Expectation Hangovers that are more spiritual in nature when we start to realize that although we have checked off everything on our life checklist, there is still lack of fulfillment.  This is a pretty direct call from the Uni-verse that it’s time to wake up.

So what do you do? How do you treat Expectation Hangovers? It takes a lot more than two aspirin, some greasy food and staying inside with the lights low.  There are no “quick fixes” for an Expectation Hangover, but because we don’t like not feeling good, we look for an external way to ease the discomfort.  Rebound relationships, abrupt career changes or miscalculated risks, addictions (drinking, gambling, sex, drugs, work, shopping) and numbing oneself with prescription drugs are common.  Slamming the door shuts out our ability to see any light at all.  We lose faith and sink into the quick sand of victimhood and hopelessness.

But if we slam the door on an Expectation Hangover, we miss out on walking through a doorway of transformation!

Often life has to throw us a curveball (or several) so that we look in a different direction.  The problem becomes when we desperately try to dodge the curveball, attempting to get out of feeling uncomfortable, and we miss the lessons that are available to us.  If things are not turning out like you had planned or want them to, that is actually really good news. The Uni-verse has a BETTER idea in store. But first you have to let go of the plan you have been attached to so that your Higher Self and the Uni-verse can conspire for you.

Instead of thinking about how to treat an Expectation Hangover, consider how you can LEVERAGE it.  Ask, “What am I learning?” rather than “Why is this happening?”  Keep you mind out of judgment, regret and shoulda/coulda/woulda thinking.  Remember, you did the best you could. You didn’t do anything wrong.  Your worth and value are not attached to anything or anyone external.  Security from any outside source is an illusion – your ultimate “safety” is in Love. And control is really over-rated…surrender is much sweeter.

Think about some of the most inspirational people you know.  I guarantee you that part of what makes them so inspirational are the Expectation Hangovers they have been through.  They leveraged their hangovers for their growth and learning. Instead of trying to snooze through the alarm of disappointment, they woke up!

Your Expectation Hangovers are gifts.  Each one has been an opportunity to let go of something external that you have clung to for worth, safety or Love.  I really get that disappointment is not at the top of your wish list. However, if you learn how to respond to Expectation Hangovers from the perspective of a student rather than a sufferer, I 100% guarantee you will walk through doorways of transformation that will lead you to more Love.

Love,

Christine

Come meet me at Tadasana Festival where I will be speaking on Expectation Hangovers and joining Mastin on the Daily Love Panel!! Get all the info here: http://www.tadasanafestival.com/lineup/christine-hassler I’d LOVE to see you there!

Christine Hassler, M.A. Author – Speaker – Life Coach www.christinehassler.com/ I’d really like it if you “liked” my Facebook fan page: http://www.facebook.com/twentysomethingtwentyeverything Huffington Post Columnist: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-hassler/

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Christine Hassler is an author, speaker, life coach and spiritual counselor dedicated to helping people answer the questions who am I, what do I want and how do I get it? You can check out her website here: http://www.christinehassler.com/.

(Source: thedailylove.com)