When you do something you’re not so proud of, you can react in one of three ways.
You can beat yourself up and wallow in the depths of despair, riddled with shame and paralyzed by guilt.
You can shield or numb yourself from what you’ve done and just keep right on doing the same ol’ thing.
Or you can take everything as an opportunity for growth and awakening, recognizing how you want to be different and taking positive action to avoid behaving that way in the future, all while holding yourself close with loving compassion and infinite forgiveness.
Bet you can guess which one I’d choose…
Always here with you, loving you, even when you screw up,
Your Inner Pilot Light"
HERE’S WHAT’S RAD ABOUT REJECTION!
"Can you please write how we can lovingly accept that an answer to what we ask for is NO?"
What a rich and beautiful question.
This question is all about what point of view we like to view answers from. Getting a “No” or “being rejected” is just a certain take on a situation.
The reality is we are simply getting feedback as we filter our way through this energetic Uni-verse.
We all know that like attracts like.
I have personally chosen to interpret the “no’s” in my life (and there have been PLENTY), not as “no’s”, but as “not yet’s” from The Uni-verse.
When we get caught up in the specific form our dreams and the things we want come in, we can miss the miracle. I’m not saying the form isn’t important, and I am also not condoning misinterpreting a potential romantic’s firm “no” as anything other than a no. Sometimes a no, means no - FROM THAT PERSON.
But not from The Uni-verse.
Let us remember Grace. Grace is the YES of the Uni-verse on our lives. But we have a limited perspective, so many times the things we think we want aren’t what we want at all. So getting a “no” from someone or something that we REALLY REALLY REALLY want is always a part of a larger YES from The Uni-verse (though we can’t always see it).
The key is this: to interpret rejection and not getting what you want as GRACE. See it as a part of a larger YES from The Uni-verse that is still unfolding. Don’t let the opinion of one person become your opinion of yourself - that is ridiculous.
Remember: a delay is not a denial. We are being groomed, prepared and polished so that when we do get what our heart’s desire, we have the capacity to not only see that this is what we’ve been asking for, but that we have the capacity, courage and humility to RECEIVE and SAY YES to what we’ve been asking for.
The heart yearns for things the mind doesn’t always understand. But, so even though we do not always know exactly who or what we are asking for, The Uni-verse does and It is constantly working on our behalf to help us remove the blocks that are within to Love, to Joy and to Abundance. If all our inner blocks were removed, we would be able to receive what our hearts desire NOW, but many times we have so much internal resistance within us that we keep the good out.
So, interpret the no’s from people in your life as a part of a larger YES from The Uni-verse. Detach from the form it comes in and be receptive to the subtle messages and guidance you receive daily. CHOOSE to interpret those rejection moments as GRACE , instead of the end of the world.
As one of my favorite poet’s Rumi says, “If you’re bothered by every rub, how will you ever be polished?”"
In the quest for perfection, I know you sometimes forget to even try.
But let me give you a tip, my dear.
Take a cue from children. When you ask young children if they want to try something new, most unabashedly say, “SURE!” The thrill of the new is irresistible. Adventure awaits. Curiosity abounds.
Then, as they age, they get programmed to seek perfection.
They stop scribbling and singing off key with great gusto.
They quit shrieking on the saxophone and stumbling in soccer.
They hesitate to try something new because they might not be good enough.
They forget how precious they are when they unapologetically drop the hula hoop and throw the basketball into the wrong team’s net.
They forget that in our imperfections lie our greatest opportunities for intimacy.
They forget how valuable they are for taking a risk and going for it, no matter the outcome.
Me, I never forget.
Ever need a pep talk when you’re thinking about taking a risk that might lead you to do something imperfectly?
Always with pom poms,
Your Inner Pilot Light