“This is your precious, precious life. Savor it. Grab the ring on the carousel. Ride the rollercoaster. Do cartwheels. Open your heart. Never leave any love unexpressed. Kiss passionately. Hug frequently. Forgive generously. Give openly. Follow your dream. Laugh at fear. Take leaps of faith. Make beautiful things. Honor what you desire. Experience pleasure. Tap into Source. Let your freak flag fly. Be unapologetically you. It’s preventative medicine. And it just might save your life.”—Lissa Rankin
“All the concepts about stepping out of your comfort zone mean nothing until you decide that your essential purpose, vision and goals are more important than your self-imposed limitations.”—Robert White, via The Daily Love
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”—Leo Buscaglia (via myquotelibrary)
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become.”—Lissa Rankin
“It starts with one small act of self-acceptance. You notice my sparkle, and I make you smile. (I’m pretty lovable, my dear. Like that person you once had a crush on who could make you smile, even when you tried not to, I’m irresistible.) That one smile is contagious. It spreads like a happy virus and suddenly, you’re accepting your crooked nose, your crappy driving, your bad habit, and your tendency to drop the F bomb at just the wrong moment. Before you know it, you’re laughing at your foibles, celebrating your strengths, and with an awesome combo of humility and pride, ticking off the ways in which you ROCK. And everyone is nodding and noticing because they want whatever you’re having. One thing leads to another and suddenly you’re attracting people to you like a magnet, the clients are rushing in, the money is flowing, your health is improving, and the doors are swinging wide open. How did it start? You smiled at me. And I smiled back.”—Your Inner Pilot Light
Everyone has an opinion. And it doesn’t mean what THEY think is right for you.
The whole game on The Path is about learning how to trust yourself. And we get all kinds of lessons in how to trust ourselves when we don’t trust
ourselves and just let other people influence us to do things that - deep down - we know we shouldn’t do. When we do this, we get pain and when we get pain, we start to pay attention, and depending on how much pain we feel - we may
actually begin to change.
Here are five ways that I’ve learned how to trust myself! I hope they help you!
1. Only Move Forward If You Get A Yes From Within
I’m not talking about your fear. When you are afraid, there are all kinds of ‘no’s’. I’m talking about at a heart/gut level, moving forward even though you are afraid. If something feels off, if you feel like moving forward with a certain decision that will cause you to shrink or feel constricted - STOP and mediate on it for ten minutes. Ultimately - the choice is yours. Listen for the YES from your Heart and your Soul. It will be right under the fear - it’s subtle, so pay attention.
2. Know What Motivates You
So many times, we live life with an “if, then statement”. IF I get this - THEN I’ll be happy. And we know that that’s just not true. If you aren’t happy now, you won’t be happy then. And if you do get happy then, it will only be fleeting. Many times people will pursue a path of significance and importance that they think will bring them Love. But it’s just not true. Many people pursue certainty, only to find out that by doing so, they are killing their dreams. Is there a hook for you when it comes to making a decision? Are you going down a path that you think will bring you one thing, but to get it you have to do the opposite? Sit back and investigate what
motivates you. Do this by asking, “Why do I want this?” “What will getting this bring me?” and “Once I get this, then what? How will I feel?” A little bit of questioning can go a LONG way!
3. Be Independent Of The Opinions Of Other People
I learned this one from Wayne Dyer. I always say - opinions are like armpits, everyone has them and most of them stink! Other people will always try to tell you what to do, what’s best for you and the like. The problem is most people are not developed or self-aware enough to understand that the advice they are giving you is actually their projection of what they would do. They aren’t considering you most of the time. And most people, especially those who are giving advice to us about our dreams, aren’t living their dreams - they are living their nightmare. Why would you want to take advice from someone who is living his or her nightmare? Instead, be independent of what other people think - take their ideas into consideration, but trust yourself and your intuition.
4. Take Advice From People Who Have What You Want
If you have a dream, take advice from people who are already living that dream. Most people around you aren’t and so their advice is at best a guess.
5. Celebrate Saying NO
NO is one of the most powerful mantra’s in the world and will be a word you will need to use more and more as you start to trust yourself. We typically like to be people pleasers and not rock the boat, but when it comes to trusting yourself and creating your dreams, it’s really important to learn when to say NO. Remember, the more powerful the NO - the more powerful the YES!
I hope this blog as helped you learn a little bit about trusting yourself. I have had to learn all these lessons the hard way, so it’s my hope that YOU can learn from my mistakes and not have to go to the super dark places that I went in my life.
Let me know how you are going to start trusting yourself! Leave a comment or send me an email: WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com.
“When you choose to numb out - whether you numb out with TV, sugar, alcohol, drugs, smoking, or busyness - you dim my light. When you’re brave enough to face the truth, you’ll feel me glowing in the center of your chest, warm, steady, increasing in strength. Are you willing to face the truth without numbing out? With me, you’re safe to face anything. I’m right here.”—Inner Pilot Light
Whenever You Doubt- There Lies The Limit of Your Faith
The title of this blog pretty much says it all. We pray for change, or we ask for things to shift, or we ask for a better life or for The Uni-verse to help us out. And yet, at the same time, we stop our blessings.
We don’t stop our blessings because we aren’t blessed; we stop our blessings because we do not trust The Uni-verse or ourselves to let go and let The Uni-verse work a little magic on our behalf. Many times people who say they have “faith” are just asking for a blueprint of how their life will change - and when we don’t get that perfect and certain blueprint, we feel like The Uni-verse is ignoring us. This just isn’t true. Perhaps, The Uni-verse has shaken us to awaken us. Perhaps when we look around and see that our life is unstable and pray to The Uni-verse to stabilize it, we look around and finally see that it’s The Uni-verse who is doing the shaking.
We pray for change. Yet we fear change. Many times the type of change we want is certain change with a known outcome - but that’s not how the game works. My friend and mentor Tony Robbins said it best: “The quality of your life is DIRECTLY related to the amount of UNCERTAINTY you can comfortably handle.”
Ain’t that a beyotch?
We have faith the MOMENT we take a step out into the unknown - even if - and especially if - we are terrified to do it. That is what faith is all about. And consider, that the crazy and unforeseen things that happen in your life are preceding something amazing. Maybe this is exactly how it had to be, so that your prayer COULD be answered. Maybe this thing that seems like a disaster, or not fair or something totally scary IS the answer to your prayer. And instead of asking for a lighter load, perhaps it’s time we have more emotional muscle.
It takes balls, guts and total belief to walk on the Path. Because the further along you go, the bigger the test is. Remember this: wherever you doubt - THERE is the edge and limit of your faith. Maybe you trust The Uni-verse to help you find a parking lot, yet you fret about the rent. Perhaps you trust The Uni-verse to provide a moment of synchronicity when a friend calls you right as you are thinking about them, but you don’t trust The Uni-verse to deliver to you the perfect romance at the perfect time.
The goal is to surrender it ALL! To let it ALL GO and detach from the outcome and step into the unknown, knowing that you are guided and you are safe. And that even in the middle of the crazy shit that goes down sometimes, it’s all a divine soup that is creating the perfect outcome for you right now, even if you can’t see that in this moment.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t try, aim, set goals or achieve. I’m just saying that it’s time to let go of the outcome and not focus on the how. I’m saying it’s time to see the world with faith goggles, so that when things go crazy or a change comes that you weren’t expecting, you’ll be able to apply the meaning of faith and grace to the situation, instead of giving it the meaning that you should give up and turn back.
Keep the faith-based mindset and see the chaos as what precedes a miracle.
Where do you doubt in your life? Where can you turn it over to The Uni-verse? Where is the limit of your faith? Send me an email or leave a comment and let me know! My email is WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com and you can leave a comment at the bottom of this blog.